Friday, November 6, 2015

Competition makes us stronger

I will always try to help people--yes, even if that means freely giving away tips and tricks and HARD WON lessons I've gleaned from my journey along the way to people who are in the same industry I am.

My *gasp* competition.

You don't see it as much in the writing community, but the music business can be a horrifically cutthroat place. There's a predominantly hoarderish attitude toward n00bs and how they must 'pay their dues.' I've always hated that bitter attitude.

But I've never understood keeping knowledge to yourself. If I can give some advice that saves someone from having to learn something the hard way like I did? You're damn right I'm going to tell them. Every time. Whether or not they take that advice isn't up to me. That's on them.

Why would I arm my competition with knowledge that could make them better?

That reminds me of a scene from the movie GO! (which, if you haven't seen, WATCH IT! It's one of my all-time favourites.)

The dad's talking to his son about how in his day, you got to the top by being greater, stronger, smarter than the guy who was already there. And now that's changed. NOW you just wait for the guy at the top to fuck up with ineptitude and BAM! You're on top.

IF it's a competition, I want to beat the best. (I do not think it's a competition, though it is a competitive industry.)

If I was on a BATTLE OF THE BANDS, I don't want to win because the best band's van broke down on the way over and I win by default. I want them to be there playing their asses off, making me sweat and smile and sing my fucking heart out, too.

When I'm playing pool with someone, I HATE winning because they scratch and sink the 8 Ball too early.

Just like the movie BRING IT ON, I want to win knowing that I have to bring my A game against another amazing team.

I don't want to win by default. I don't think I'm the best. I know with every book I write, I improve. I shed old habits. I hone my language. My drafts get neater. I compete against myself to be better than I was last year, last month, last week.

And I read something someone else writes, and I flail with delight at their skill. I smile, I wail, I want to be better so maybe my words can make someone feel the way their words just made me feel.

When you start thinking you're The Best, you're getting complacent, and saying you have no more room to grow.

I saw this video and it reminded me that competition makes us stronger. When we see the amazing talent that's out there, and realize we don't have to beat other people--we just have to try to be the best version of ourselves that we can, then we're all winners.

Thursday, October 29, 2015

Bookmobile! Like the Batmobile, but more exciting!

I grew up in a very small, rural community. Okay, that's not true. I actually grew up on a farm, and had to travel to *get to* a very small, rural community. And take a bus from there to get to my school.

My elementary school was very small and, sadly, the library was tiny. BUT we had this amazing thing called, The Bookmobile!

The Bookmobile was basically a huge RV that had been lined with shelves, and filled with books. It would show up every couple weeks and BLOW OUR MINDS.

Crammed full of books we hadn't read yet, it was a magical place for a voracious reader like me who had basically rampaged my way through the shelves at school and NEEDED MORE THINGS TO READ.

I thought that Bookmobile driver was a hero. Honestly, I’m pretty sure we all thought that the driver OWNED all the books and was letting us borrow them from his private shelves. We didn’t question why an adult had so many children’s books; we were too busy grabbing all the Berenstain Bears and Little Miss books we could get our hands on!

Such a small thing, new books to read, made a huge difference to our lives. And it still means the world to me. Waiting (somewhat) patiently for the next book in a series I love, knowing it’s On Its Way is almost as exciting as reading the book itself. Almost. Let’s not be silly.

There are so many authors out there producing new and exciting things for us to read, and suddenly I’m out there too, pouring my heart into the keyboard while words come out of my fingertips.

I’m not a kid climbing the stairs into the dark hall of the bookmobile anymore, but I feel just as excited – only now mine is the book someone might take off the shelf, or one-click.

I can’t tell you how good that feels. How HUGE that feels.

I can only hope that you’ve gone for one of your dreams as well, and made it a reality. Don't wait or put it off any longer. Work on it for even five minutes a day.

Sunday, August 2, 2015

The Top 5 Things Star Wars Taught Me About Love

5. Making someone jealous by kissing someone else is tacky. And gross. And can have unforeseen consequences. THAT’S YOUR BROTHER, LEIA! *shudders*

4. Love and passion can be FRUSTRATING.

3. Bad boys can be delightful.

2. But a reformed bad boy is even hotter. (And turnabout is fair play).

1. The best thing Star Wars taught me? True love goes without saying.

Wednesday, January 28, 2015


Ready for something a little…wrong?

How about something so wrong it’s right?

Flawed Heroes, Book One
Jessalyn Jameson

***Coming March 10, 2015***

Cover Artist: Michelle Johnson, Blue Sky Design

Former rebel-punk foster child. Has-been golden boy swim champ. Second chance at the love of a lifetime, or all-consuming mistake?

Drowning in guilt, Sage Shepard and Brandon Tiggs have spent the last seven years blaming themselves for their post-graduation break-up. Brand numbs the pain by sleepwalking through his monotonous existence. Sage seeks solace in random strangers—names optional.

When Sage returns to the town she left years ago, she unknowingly walks right back into Brand’s life. Mid-divorce, Brand sees Sage’s return as the opportunity of a lifetime. But Sage doesn’t believe in second chances, and still hasn’t forgiven herself for the mistakes she made in the most important relationship of her existence.

Their all-consuming love reignites, and as passion threatens to undo them, it’s all either can do to stay afloat.

Some mistakes refuse to stay in the past.

Sometimes ‘wrong’ is the best kind of right.

Links: Amazon (pre-order) | Goodreads 

Pre-order GIVEAWAY!

If 'wrong kind of right' looks like your thing, as a little bonus incentive, Jessalyn is giving away a $25.00 Amazon gift card to anyone who pre-orders CHLORINE & CHAOS through Amazon! 
Simply forward your receipt of purchase email, or a screenshot of the same to this email.

Winner will be revealed on March 10, 2015 on Jessalyn's Twitter, so be sure to follow her there! 

About the Author:

Jessalyn Jameson writes sexy, troubled
love stories that break the rules and sit just outside the romance box.
Jameson’s couples mess up, break up, make up . . . and fight their way to their
Nothing worth having comes easily—why should a happy
ending be any different?

When she’s not writing, you can usually find her with a
drink in hand and a far-off look in her eyes, always dreaming up her next
chaotic couple. Married to the hottest guy in the room, a mother to
one sassy tween and two spoiled dogs, obsessed with Supernatural (Team Dean),
The Vampire Diaries (Team Damon), and Craft beer, Jessalyn is a homebody with a
gypsy soul.

CHLORINE & CHAOS is the first in Jameson’s Flawed
Please stay tuned for Jake’s story in WHISKEY BURNED, coming
late 2015.